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[johnny9fingers]

It turned into a proper first date.
She bought me supper. We argued about the bill and she browbeat me....uncertain of how to take that.
Also she isn't too keen on having poetry quoted at her....doesn't know her Shakespeare that well and has a distinct dislike to being called "m'dear" which is alas one of my default usages.
She is very clever (whew, some relief there then) and v. cute.
She also thinks I'm too posh. Tried to disabuse her: "it's just my voice" didn't really convince.

The Pub was too loud, and I was still slightly hearing impaired after the flight back from Nice. 

Escorted her to London Bridge Railway station where she took the train. I took the tube back to Balham and overland from there. When I got out of the underground I found I had a txt message on my mobile:

"tks for fun evening. Can't believe I spent at least 5 mins queuing for a ticket and could have got a free ride! Give me a bell if u feel like getting out of the bath and need more than a book for company....I might turn up. S."

I think that probably counts as a win. Will txt her back today, without bath related comments. I wish I'd never mentioned the two-novel-bath as proof of sybaritic tendencies. I wonder if company extends to.....shall speculate no longer.

Also got another txt message almost simultaneously from Em, which was much ruder. And if you're reading this Em, the answer is no. I do understand how first dates go. I am a gentleman. I am no longer the young man for whom women were prepared to do that sort of thing on a first date, really. Just because you don't mess about, doesn't mean the rest of the female population are as....practical as you.
 

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[johnny9fingers.livejournal.com]

Thanks m'dear.

[cbertsch.livejournal.com]

Sounds like a win to me! If you can argue and still get texted afterwards, that seems like a very good sign.

[johnny9fingers.livejournal.com]

We didn't really argue, she kept me to my best behaviour. Wouldn't let me look over the top of my glasses at her. Stopped my yawning twice (we were drinking my dear....and am still q. unused to the different soporific qualities from my habitual soporific.)
I think the word is 'Stern'.
She has some Adore Belle Dearheart like characteristics, which slay me every time.....Also, she's an occasional smoker, and I deem this is someone I could snog fairly seriously without being self-conscious of always smelling or tasting of the ashtray.
I cannot live without wit: she has it in spades. Perhaps I'm smit in a small way, but I haven't really been smit since '01.....subsequent smits have all not quite shaken my world to the same extent (thank the gods). The coup de foudre that destroyed my social life and left me adulterer rather damaged me in my essence too: and let's face it, I no longer know that woman, nor am I any more emotionally attached to her in any way. There have been subsequent ex's, all of whom I've cared for without that awful desperation of Clodia.

Anyway, back to comely lawyer with wit and charm....I did txt her back....but couldn't resist making a slightly off-key joke....no doubt that will end any interest on her part. We'll see.

[cbertsch.livejournal.com]

You have to try early to see what the bounds of communication are. Off-key is better probed in the beginning, I'd warrant.

I've never been a smoker. In fact, it troubles me to be around smoke, especially of the tobacco variety. But I actually have fond memories of snogging smokers.

[(Anonymous)]

Erm... Not always so restrained, if I recall. But well done nevertheless - and why did you not take her up on the offer of compnay after the bath?

If her employment is what she makes it out to be, don't bother arguing about the bill - you won't win.

M

P.S. Please don't type txt. It makes me wince.

[johnny9fingers.livejournal.com]

She is, according to her card, a partner at some legal firm or other: which could cover a multitude of sins. I doubt however she makes as much money as Nick or Fra or anyone like that, and if she does, I don't need to know about it thank you. I'll keep my bloody-minded independence whatever. And besides, it's not as if I haven't stepped out with seriously rich women before: I know the score.

Congratulating me on my restraint....Gods, what has happened to me? The world changed for me when I started looking after Dad.

Love to Nick, and small human.

[(Anonymous)]

I meant that she's a lawyer, not that she's loaded, although that may or may not be the case (partner can mean almost anything). If she wants to win an argument like that she will - or she's not much of a lawyer.

I'm not suggesting that you should become some form of toy boy - it wouldn't suit you, just like I can't be kept - it does bad things to one's head. And I was congratulating you on being monosyllabic enough to get a text message offering to provide company while bathing, not for not taking up the offer. I think you can guess which option I think you should have taken...

M

[johnny9fingers.livejournal.com]

I don't think it was an offer specific; more a comment on my idiotic glorying in hedonistical two-novel baths. If it had been an offer, believe me....I'm still somewhat of the man I was twenty years ago.
Context gives meaning, and evidently I didn't provide enough in the way of context: my bad.

Sounds like an excellent bit of tottie

[ankh156.livejournal.com]

Be a smart lad and try to keep her on the line.

Re: Sounds like an excellent bit of tottie

[johnny9fingers.livejournal.com]

I'll do my best, but I rather think that I've made my interest plain, though hopefully not vulgar: and now it's down to madame. Can she bear my idiosyncrasies? Am I too eccentric for normal women? Can she cope with losing the odd argument? (And can I cope with losing most of them?)
Also, do we fit well in other ways....so much to find out, so much to explore. Next move is hers....and I seem to be en prise.

A first date? A good start!

[winterlion.livejournal.com]

Oh this sounds like a good beginning.

May you two get more opportunities for laughter!

Re: A first date? A good start!

[johnny9fingers.livejournal.com]

Thanks m'dear. I hope so too. I notice that you appear to be smiling more too. This is a good thing.

[vlion.livejournal.com]

I wish you well. ^_^

[johnny9fingers.livejournal.com]

Thanks.
Everyone's been very kind.

[desidono.livejournal.com]

Grats man. Here's to more good times!

[johnny9fingers.livejournal.com]

Thanks.
The two of you guys look really cool together. Be happy and have big fun, as the cliché has it.
I'm pretty over-the-moon at present, so I recommend that you spread whatever joy you can; because some folk are having significantly harder times than us, alas. My f-list is in some respects beginning to resemble some the equivalent of the Somme, but for relationships.