I suppose all my relationships revolve for about half the time around my own concerns. I may be misplacing cause and effect. I try quite hard to be in the right. I'm clever, very well read, and sound like Brian Sewell's posher relative. And I'm particular about being right (in the sense of correct). Even my more learned and brilliant ex's didn't necessarily beat me in debate, which could, and did, sometimes rankle. Not that relationships should be about debate....but I tend to react to some offhand remarks....I'm still quite left-wing compared to, let's say, the Fox Network, or even in comparison to my last ex, and casual racist remarks, for example could set me going. Wrenching the moral high ground away from my grasp seems to be something that every single girlfriend I've ever had has tried (barring one otherwise gay woman, it must be said). And it's not as if I compete...because I recognised that may have been contributing to my failure rate very early on. I'd just rather be right, that's all: which is not the same as 'righter than you', wherein I think lies a difference. But it's not one that my partners have necessarily appreciated.
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Date: 2007-10-16 06:48 pm (UTC)I'm clever, very well read, and sound like Brian Sewell's posher relative. And I'm particular about being right (in the sense of correct). Even my more learned and brilliant ex's didn't necessarily beat me in debate, which could, and did, sometimes rankle. Not that relationships should be about debate....but I tend to react to some offhand remarks....I'm still quite left-wing compared to, let's say, the Fox Network, or even in comparison to my last ex, and casual racist remarks, for example could set me going.
Wrenching the moral high ground away from my grasp seems to be something that every single girlfriend I've ever had has tried (barring one otherwise gay woman, it must be said). And it's not as if I compete...because I recognised that may have been contributing to my failure rate very early on. I'd just rather be right, that's all: which is not the same as 'righter than you', wherein I think lies a difference.
But it's not one that my partners have necessarily appreciated.
Actually, I'd rather everyone was 'right'.