I think the lesbian flirting thing may be easier than the gay male flirting thing mainly because men are all so ugly. Almost all women have something to recommend them, and almost no men; and the ones that have make one a bit worried, actually. Flirting is not cheesy pick-up lines. It is an acknowledged conspiracy between the flirter and flirtee, and usually avoids overt reference to sexuality. Oblique abstractions and delicate symbolism allied with heightened perceptions can provide an amusing frission, but that sort of flirting requires a truly educated women aware of the forms, and yet...flirting should always be about, in it's crudest sense, the witholding of permission for a shag, whilst dangling the abstract prospect thereof. Doing so with enough charm and control is the essence of the thing. Some folk have to juggle knives for their thrills. Some girls get flirting wrong, or pick the wrong audience....it helps that Steve's business partner is a black belt in one of the more 'contact' versions of karate, which gives her the confidence to do as she pleases, and good for her. It also helps that she is around folk for whom certain standards apply. Civilisation is a fine ambition: it's about time we attained it en masse.
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Date: 2007-12-01 01:25 pm (UTC)Flirting is not cheesy pick-up lines. It is an acknowledged conspiracy between the flirter and flirtee, and usually avoids overt reference to sexuality. Oblique abstractions and delicate symbolism allied with heightened perceptions can provide an amusing frission, but that sort of flirting requires a truly educated women aware of the forms, and yet...flirting should always be about, in it's crudest sense, the witholding of permission for a shag, whilst dangling the abstract prospect thereof. Doing so with enough charm and control is the essence of the thing.
Some folk have to juggle knives for their thrills. Some girls get flirting wrong, or pick the wrong audience....it helps that Steve's business partner is a black belt in one of the more 'contact' versions of karate, which gives her the confidence to do as she pleases, and good for her. It also helps that she is around folk for whom certain standards apply. Civilisation is a fine ambition: it's about time we attained it en masse.